My man thinks light skinned women use men

I am a 24-year-old girl and I am having problems. My mother has seven children. When I was born, she gave me away. I was raised by a woman who had other children. When I was 15, one of her sons molested me and I told her about it. She didn’t believe me.

She asked him about it and he denied it. He returned for sex a second time and I consented because I didn’t want my adoptive parents to throw me out. They told me if I told anybody, I would have to leave.

One day, I was coming from school and a man told me he had always admired me. I had just turned 16. The man was nearly twice my age. I noticed he was always putting himself in the way so I could see him after school.

I asked him if he was married and he said no. He told me he had two children but he and their mother didn’t get along. I was not happy at home. This man told me I was too young to leave, so I stayed. I got tough and refused to have sex with the lady’s son. I told him that I would chop him if he tried to have sex with me again because that was the only way people would believe me. He stopped molesting me.

When I was 18, I left and went to live with the man. I am still with him, but sometimes we argue. I am of light complexion and he is very dark and his mind is as dark as his complexion.

He doesn’t want to see a fly pitch on me. If I talk to any other men he says I am with him. Sometimes I don’t like to sleep with him because he drinks a lot and he stinks of rum. He is the type of man who can’t talk to me without cursing.

He is always threatening to shoot me in the vagina. He doesn’t have a gun, but he says that he can get one. I am working and I want to go back to school. He can afford to help me, but he is afraid that I am going to leave him. He said light-skinned girls like to trick black men. Please give me your advice.

S.T.

Dear S.T.,

You said this man is nearly twice your age but you seem to like him. Apart from his drinking, cursing, and threats, both of you have got along. I hope you would never condemn your mother for giving you away, so to speak. She thought it was the best thing to do. I imagine she thought you would have had a better life than she could have given you.

The people who took you seemed to have treated you well but then their son molested you. When you complained about him, they defended their son and called you a liar. Now that you are older, I am sure you have realised that many times, it is the victim of abuse who is not believed.

These people behaved as if their son was a saint and would never sexually abuse you. It took you a while to decide to stand your ground, so to speak, and when you did, the sexual abuse ceased.

It is unfortunate that you went to live with a man at such a tender age, but you believed that by leaving your adoptive parents’ home and going to this man was your way of escape.

Older men are generally jealous over their young spouses, so I am not surprised that he is jealous over you. What is bad is that he curses and he seems to lack the ability to reason.

You know that you are not keeping another man with him. He is saying things to frighten you to keep you under his control.

I suggest you try your best to further your education. You don’t have to depend on him. You can work and study. Ignore the nonsense he mentioned about women with light complexions. Not all women use men.

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Vybz Kartel is currently in the process of retaining a legal team to apply for an appeal. A source close to the entertainer said, Vybz Kartel is anxious and concerned about the information which surfaced during the trial involving juror misconduct. Accused juror Livingston Cain is currently on trial for allegedly trying to bribe the forewoman and other members of the jury. During his ongoing trial, it was understood that two members of the jury worked for the Jamaica Defense Force while another two are believed to be neighbors.

One attorney who is already on the deejay’s legal team reveals that the transcript of Vybz Kartel’s trial is practically ready, hinting that they will make an appeal before the year ends. Conspiracy by the state against the dancehall deejay is part of the defense’s argument going forward.

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Swiping sweet him to death

Di Ragashanti World Tour a gwaan same way. Ragashanti Live broadcast fi four days from London, England … and di broadcasts dem slap weh!! Big up di England people dem weh tun up di ting! Latoya Lake, Keisha Bless (not the one fram Cali lol) Exstasy Queen an all England linky-linky, propa respek to all a unu. Nuff respek to Janet Bembow an Puss fi di crazy vibz weh dem rinse.

An mi haffi big up di lady weh rinse har very true mix-up weh she did a gi a man a swipe an it sweet di man soh much dat him jus tiff out an dead right inna di miggle a di ting!! Pupa Jeeeezas!! A real ting people, yeah. it all come eena di newspapers a England.

And, yes. she did come pon di broadcast an gi wi di full hundred pon di net. She did a rinse out a badadan act pon di dawg, an wen di sweetniss connect wid di general him staat tremble like wow. She say wen him staat tremble, she did tink a sweet it sweet him, soh she jus rev up di mout engine fi di betta.

Di whole a di dawg baddy staat rail up an a gwaan wid a bag a tings! An she jus tun it up fi di betta, crazy movements! Have bwoy unda propa mannas wid di tongue discipline. It reach di point weh di sweetniss fly up inna di boss head an him jus stiff out an naa move!

People yuh nuh know say a dead di dawg dead. even doe Ms lady mout did still full!! Mi cyaan bada enuh! An yuh nuh know say inna di broadcast mi ask har if wen him did dead if dat did dead too?? She say no. In fact, because dat neva dead she neva did even know say him dead. Caa hear wa, if a man have dat up deh soh, an a catty have him unda di good-up good-up treatment an den goh dead. di way how di human baddy work, dat a goh stay up deh fi a while. An das why she neva know say di dawg drop out long time an still did de deh a work har jaw cawna dem. Woooooiiieee!! She suck di life outa him!! Waaaaiiiieeee!!! Drap a grung! Laughing buck. Mi cyaan bada enuh. Cho!!

Hear wa all man haffi careful a da woman deh mout. Caa she wi BLOW your mind!! Kinova!! Har Hurricane Tongue an har Vacuum Troat a nuh nuttin naamal.

Anyway, mek mi done wid di almshouse. But big an serious doe mi ask har how she did feel wen she realise say a dead him did dead. She say even doe him neva did a move she still neva tink say him did dead. But wen it confirm say him did dead she did feel a way still. Naa lie doe. Di way how she free up an relax wen she did a tell it appears as if she get ova dat long time.

But me a wonda if because a wa happen she tun dung di energy pon har headas dem outa fear say she nuh waan kill no more man?? Mi jus a wonda.

Hear weh mi a say.if a woman hot like 10 fireside an waan gimmi a swipe, but den mi hear say she did swipe a man to death mi NAA TEK IT!! She can keep har Killa Mout! I will do widout. Nex ting yuh know she goh Tea-Bag mi an dry mi out. Noooo Sah!!

Big har up still.

Anyway, big up di TamFam weh roll out a di Tambourine Radio London Party. Wat a party sweet!! Mi say if di party sweet one more time, esi. Big up di DJ dem Supa Fridge and Noah di Yute wid di Powa. Unu deal wid di ting wicked.

Awright, a leggomentz time now. Sen mi unu mix-up dem at ragashanti@ragashanti.com. Bless up all TamFammers. Nuff love same way. See unu nex Thursday.

Road mi say!!

strip club outing

I am the mother of two girls and one boy. The boy is my second child. He is very close to his father and he can get away with a lot of wrongs. When our son became 18 years old, his father told him that he is now a big man and he should have sex with as many women as he can. I objected to what he was telling our son and his father said that I wanted the boy to grow up like a girl. Now my son has so many girlfriends, he cannot even count them.

My husband allows him to drive the car sometimes to carry out his girlfriends and he gives him money, too, to buy gifts for them. I found out that on his 18th birthday, he took our son to a strip club. My son looked at me and reminded me that he was 18 when I expressed shock at where he went. I told him that he was still a child as far as I was concerned. The boy used to go to church. Now he prefers to go out with his father on a Sunday.

He locks away in his room looking at adult movies and his father thinks nothing is wrong with it. I asked him if he would like men to fool around his girl children as his son is doing to other girls. I went into his drawer and in one of them I saw different types of condoms – some plain ones and some fruit-scented ones. My husband thinks that I am playing God and the boy should do what he can do because this world doesn’t have enough men to meet the needs of women.

V.D.

Dear V.D.,kushkxng.wordpress.com

What your husband is doing is trying to get your son to love him even more. Some men believe that when their boy children get to a certain age they should let them loose. They encourage them to have sex with as many women as possible. That is one way to prove their manhood. Some men take their sons to the bar and encourage them to drink hard liquor. And they think that it is fun to welcome their sons to the waterhole.

Surely, your husband could have taken your son somewhere else and he could have introduced him to the business world and encouraged him to become an entrepreneur. If the young man did not own stocks, he could have also bought stocks for him in businesses. The money he is teaching him to waste in clubs and on girls could have been spent better. Shame on your husband.

As a responsible mother you have to continue to talk because, clearly, your husband is not setting good examples for your son.